Archive for January, 2008
Thursday, January 31st, 2008
har asked: They should be careful because I suspect that this young lady is going to be a very prominent person in future politics. In exercising her right to free speech, she was a mite harsh in her response to a question about her parent’s work, regarding an exposed marital problem. I think it caught her off-guard, and we all, at times, wish we had re-phrased something! I do admire her inherited intellect, and otherwise, she has been very respectful to everyone. But, even so, I like Obama better.
Bruce
Tags: Campaign Strategy, Conservatives, Young Lady
Posted in Politics | 16 Comments »
Thursday, January 31st, 2008
Sesna C asked: I tried asking this on mar and div and got a lot of critical, surprised answers that weren’t helpful. Pls only post if you can actually add something helpful. As I noted. My husb knows I have spending issues. Regardless he has left me in control of our money that I have abused in great amounts 3 seperate times over $30k. He is now angry. I’m trying to figure how to help myself but really need his support. He acts as if he hates me but will have *** w/ me and nothing else. I don’t think he respects me at all. He won’t talk to me about it. Now he is on this “I let you have your way too much binge”. And he is acting all mean and bitter. I feel sad too about this. But I’ve never spent money right. He knows it. I fear he will divorce me. We already had marital issues. How can I get him to help me with this by being more accountable as well as help our marriage and improve our financial situation? Or should I just give up?
Lois
Tags: Div, Husb, Weren
Posted in Psychology | 4 Comments »
Thursday, January 24th, 2008
Romans 8:28 asked: I can’t help but notice that the first answer for most of these questions regarding problems in a marriage boils down to things like “Get a divorce” or “leave” or “kick them out” or “give an ultimatum”. When people take their marriage vows, they vow “For better or worse”, so why is everybody so ready to call it quits (or to tell somebody else to) when “worse” comes along? Life is NOT a fairytale and nobody is perfect…
Karen
Tags: Life Is Not A Fairytale, Marriage, Ultimatum
Posted in Marriage & Divorce | 26 Comments »
Wednesday, January 23rd, 2008
Chef Ross Eats Books asked: I’m extremely close to my Dad. We hang out a few times a month, shoot pool, go to the bar, have dinner, etc.
However, he’s been making me feel pretty awkward the last few months because someimes he’ll start talking about he and my Mom’s marital problems.
REALLY personal stuff, like she’s mad at him for creating about $400,000 of debt, so whenever he tries to have *** with her, she just lies there and he struggles to get an ******** b/c she won’t engage in any foreplay.
Or how my Mom said she’d leave him if she had the money. He also told me about how Mom cheated on him when they first got married.
I’m an adult, 24, but I feel so awkward because he’s talking about my MOM. What am I supposed to say? “That b*tch is crazy. Dump her?”
Heidi
Tags: Mom, Money, Pool Bar
Posted in Family | 3 Comments »
Sunday, January 20th, 2008
pingnavarro asked: In our country, there is no divorce, but there is legal separation, In legal separation, you cannot marry again. But still, people here always think of marrying at the age of 25-30, not afraid of failed marriages. How come in America, only few people are getting married and yet, most of it end up in divorce? Dont yout think that marrying for them is just a play and not a commitment? They dont choose wisely whom they are getting married since any difference will be resolved by DIVORCE?
How about the children who are always the victim?
Any comments?
Denise
Tags: Divorce, Failed Marriages, Marital Problems
Posted in Marriage & Divorce | 6 Comments »
Monday, January 14th, 2008
LFM asked: I’ve always felt at peace to give advice or offer to help but yesterday I found myself confused and didn’t know what to tell my neighbor.
She’s orthodox and he’s a non-practicing catholic so I’m obviously not as aware about their teachings or practices as far as religion goes. They’re in their late 20s. They have a 2year old and have been married for 3years. He drinks obsessively and is out till 3am usually with his “friends” and drives home in that state.
He’s rude, swears, and throws things at her and their son has begun learning temperaments and throwing things. He’s constantly insulting her and says marriage is just a piece of paper. All this seems to have gotten worse when the baby was born.
I’m not an advocate for divorce at all but I do believe that marriage is about mutual love, respect and understanding and obviously a level of compatibility and priorities. I really didn’t know what to suggest or how to help other than convince her to have a serious and proper talk with him, but I’m afraid even that would be hurtful to her.
What would you suggest to someone like this? She’s a sweetheart and her son is just precious.
Wasalam.
Dora
Tags: Advocate, Divorce, Religion
Posted in Marriage & Divorce | 6 Comments »
Saturday, January 12th, 2008
girlinlove asked: If so, whats the problem(s) in your marriage?
Kim
Tags: Marital Problems, Marriage
Posted in Marriage & Divorce | 4 Comments »
Friday, January 11th, 2008
bostonsdig asked: He is somewhat controlling. We have been married for 11 years and are currently going to marriage counseling, I feel like he felt he’s losing control of me, so he moved on to try to manipulate my parents to be on his side. He said he just loves them and wants them to know what is going on. My Mom worries about everything little thing and this kept her up all night. What do you think?
I had already mentioned to my parents that we were having some problems only because he kept threatening to leave. I didn’t go into many details.
The dynamics of our relationship have changed over that last few years. I lost some weight and my professional career has blossomed somewhat. He became very jealous, possessive. I feel that my newly found self-respect is a threat to him.
I do feel like we have grown apart.
Elaine
Tags: 11 Years, Losing Control, Parents
Posted in Marriage & Divorce | 21 Comments »
Friday, January 11th, 2008
Cuddly W asked: My parents have been married about 15 years and have had troubles in their relationship for about 8. Neither of them brought them up until recently and now they are doing better but my dad says he still believes they only have a 50% chance of working out. He said that he loves her, but isn’t in love with her. He sees her as more of a best friend than a wife/lover. I know I shouldn’t get involved too much, and I’m not planning on it… I just don’t know how to deal with it without crying myself to sleep at night like I have been. I want them to work out and I’m pretty scared and I just don’t know how to handle it…
Lawrence
Tags: Best Friend, Marital Problems, Parents
Posted in Marriage & Divorce | 7 Comments »
Monday, January 7th, 2008
kathy asked: I spend a lot of time with him because we are both unhappy with our current relationship situation. We talk on the phone every day. My daughter does not live at home and does not know about the time I am spending with her ex-boyfriend going out to dinner or for a couple of drinks. I truly enjoy his company and I don’t feel uncomfortable when I am with him. Is this wrong to continue a friendship with him? My daughter treated him terribly in their relationship and he is still in love with her. I love him like a son but I’m worried he may think otherwise.
I’ll admit that I find him attractive but our age difference is 20 years and I have seen the movie The Graduate. I would never let myself get in a Mrs. Robinson situation and have an affair with my daughter’s ex-boy-friend. It would be wrong on many levels. He is still in love with my daughter and has a very broken heart. I am unhappy in my marriage and we seem to have this bond or empathy for what we are going through. The main point of my question was trying to figure out what this young man might be thinking? I am the type of mother that is friends with many of my daughter’s friends and even previous ex-boyfriends that I see or hang out with from time to time. It’s just that in the case of her ex-boyfriend I find myself spending more and more time with him because we both have empathy for each other and he truly is like a son to me. But I’m worried that maybe that’s not what he’s thinking. Hope that clarifies things. I do not want to have *** with him.
Danielle
Tags: Current, Love, Mrs Robinson
Posted in Other - Family & Relationships | 3 Comments »
