Archive for February, 2008
If two of your friends are having marital problems?
Thursday, February 14th, 2008Big question, I have a best friend who’s having ongoing marital problems and today she broke down, cried to me
Wednesday, February 13th, 2008
No Name Girl asked:
She is Christian woman and has 4 children with her husband. She has been going to marriage counseling for about 10 months with her husband and by herself. But, she tells me today that she really doesn’t see much of a change in her husband and she is desperate to work it out. Also, that he thinks it is stupid to go to the counselor who is only putting ideas in her head and that they were happy before they met with the counselor. He said he doesn’t want her to go anymore. But, she cried to me at my house today and said he has an anger problem, is verbally and emotionally abusive to her and her kids. She has no job right now and her youngest is three. She said her husband hasn’t hit her, but about a year ago he got violent with their 5 year old. I just don’t know what in the world to tell her!!! I hugged her and was shocked because I didn’t know things were that bad. What should I tell her to do?
Billy
She is Christian woman and has 4 children with her husband. She has been going to marriage counseling for about 10 months with her husband and by herself. But, she tells me today that she really doesn’t see much of a change in her husband and she is desperate to work it out. Also, that he thinks it is stupid to go to the counselor who is only putting ideas in her head and that they were happy before they met with the counselor. He said he doesn’t want her to go anymore. But, she cried to me at my house today and said he has an anger problem, is verbally and emotionally abusive to her and her kids. She has no job right now and her youngest is three. She said her husband hasn’t hit her, but about a year ago he got violent with their 5 year old. I just don’t know what in the world to tell her!!! I hugged her and was shocked because I didn’t know things were that bad. What should I tell her to do?
Billy
marital problems. help please?
Thursday, February 7th, 2008
g_marie24 asked:
I got pregnant when I was 18 .. me and my boyfriend decided to get married .. we have been married for over two years now, and things aren’t going very well.. we fight a lot and have absolutely nothing in common.. i feel like its the right thing to do since we have a child together, but i am afraid later on down the road we will divorce because things just keep going downhill.. do i need to get out now? i am afraid the longer i wait the harder it will be.. any advice?
Elaine
I got pregnant when I was 18 .. me and my boyfriend decided to get married .. we have been married for over two years now, and things aren’t going very well.. we fight a lot and have absolutely nothing in common.. i feel like its the right thing to do since we have a child together, but i am afraid later on down the road we will divorce because things just keep going downhill.. do i need to get out now? i am afraid the longer i wait the harder it will be.. any advice?
Elaine
Marital problems due to ******. Advice?
Wednesday, February 6th, 2008
Baby #2 Due 5/5/09 asked:
I was molested, and eventually ***** by my first cousin between the ages of 14 and 15.
I was molested, and eventually ***** by my first cousin between the ages of 14 and 15.
When i was 15 i ended up pregnant as a result.
He never went to jail for what he did to me, and im always walking on egg shells as a result.
I was raised in a very strict home where i was obligated to go to church 3 times a week. I was taught abortion was wrong, so i gave birth to my son when i was only 24 weeks pregnant.
He was very sick and i went through alot during my teenage years, and it was very hard for me to raise him with no help from my family.
I eventually met the man who is now my husband. We’ve been together for a little over a year now, and he knows all bout the things that have happened to me.
Even though he is a wonderful person, i have a hard time trusting him, and i shut down sometimes for no apparent reason. I also have a hard time expressing myself.
I am 20yrs old now and pregnant with my second child. Im having terrible mood swings and depressed feelings. I take alot of my anger out on him because i feel like hes not understanding me. I sometimes feel like he just doesnt care.
All of these feelings lead back to what happened to me when i was 14….
How do i cope with this? How do i work towards making our relationship better? Any suggestions will be appreciated. Thanks.
Brent
Marital problems, and need some advice. I am not sure what I am doing wrong?
Sunday, February 3rd, 2008
angelbaby_112906 asked:
Ok, My husband and I have been together for four years and married for three. We have a five month old son. I use to have a myspace and my husband always got mad at me for having one and wanted me to delete it. Well, a girl that he went to high school with tried to get ahold of him and didn’t sound like she was looking just for a friend so I deleted my myspace for that reason and because I was sick of always getting yelled at. Well he heard that she was trying to get ahold of him and I told him that I wasn’t comfortable with him talking to her because of they way she was so egar to get ahold of him. Well he has been treating me really badly telling me to pack my stuff and our sons and leave that he doesn’t love me because I don’t trust him….but yet if it was the other way around he would be so angry if I talked to another guy. He always tells me that he is right and I am wrong. I don’t understand how it wasn’t ok for me to talk to guys I went to high school but it would be ok for him
Oh yea and for some people who think the reason I had a myspace was to go looking around…you are stupid, and wrong. I had it to keep in touch with my seventeen year old brother who I never get to see. Myspace only causes problems for people who let it.
oh yea and we didn’t get married because I got pregnant…we were married two years before.
Lois
Ok, My husband and I have been together for four years and married for three. We have a five month old son. I use to have a myspace and my husband always got mad at me for having one and wanted me to delete it. Well, a girl that he went to high school with tried to get ahold of him and didn’t sound like she was looking just for a friend so I deleted my myspace for that reason and because I was sick of always getting yelled at. Well he heard that she was trying to get ahold of him and I told him that I wasn’t comfortable with him talking to her because of they way she was so egar to get ahold of him. Well he has been treating me really badly telling me to pack my stuff and our sons and leave that he doesn’t love me because I don’t trust him….but yet if it was the other way around he would be so angry if I talked to another guy. He always tells me that he is right and I am wrong. I don’t understand how it wasn’t ok for me to talk to guys I went to high school but it would be ok for him
Oh yea and for some people who think the reason I had a myspace was to go looking around…you are stupid, and wrong. I had it to keep in touch with my seventeen year old brother who I never get to see. Myspace only causes problems for people who let it.
oh yea and we didn’t get married because I got pregnant…we were married two years before.
Lois
Have you ever felt that you can give great advices to people but you can never work out your own problems?
Sunday, February 3rd, 2008
nicolita asked:
A friend of mine was having some marital problems with her husband, a little similar as mine, she asked for my help and I advised her what to do. That was 2 weeks ago, today she wrote to me how much I helped her, and that I am a good friend and her husband is trying to change a lot for her…
A friend of mine was having some marital problems with her husband, a little similar as mine, she asked for my help and I advised her what to do. That was 2 weeks ago, today she wrote to me how much I helped her, and that I am a good friend and her husband is trying to change a lot for her…
I am very happy for her. Good for her.
But how did I give an advice to someone, and I can’t advise myself about what to do?
does anyone feel the same?
Thanks all.
Debbie
