Fighting For Your Marriage

zanilth1984 asked:


Alright, here is my situation. I have been with my wife for about two years, six months of it being married. We have a seven month old daughter. Before we had our daughter, we never fought about anything. Money, intimacy, etc. Now when she had the baby, shortly thereafter she started having signs of depression. So, finally I took her to the doctor. She was diagnosed with situational depression, and was given some medicine. My quesion is actually involving intimacy. I have tried helping her as much as I can to get through her depression. However, she is never in the mood to be intimate. I can’t even kiss her, or cuddle her, or anything hardly anymore. She will allow me to perform *********** on her maybe once a week, but I am lucky to get anything whatsoever once a month. I have expressed my concern to her, as I am getting into my sexual peak and am feeling quite starved. Anyone have any advice?
BTW, the pregnancy did toss her hormones out of whack, and I am aware of all that. Seven months later, things should be back to normal for that, but I understand that doesn’t always work. She was originally given the medicine for a month (she spent a week in a hospital for monitoring and such, when I took her to the doctor.) She was alright mood wise during the month, but still no *** drive. She ran out for a week and a half, and bottomed out again. Got the medicine again, and is starting to level out. I do tell her that I am attracted to her daily, tell her I love her, etc. I want to help her get through this, however I am starting to feel neglected.
The medicine wasn’t the problem with the lack of libido, it was present before. Medicine hasn’t helped or hurt any.
As for the comment about her taking care of the baby, who taking care of the baby wasn’t the question. When I am home, we take care of the baby. I do as much with my daughter as I can. That wasn’t part of the issue, so I didn’t mention it. You shouldn’t assume such things, Bharti.

Eugene