sweetiefacek asked: my husband & i are living w/ his parents trying to save $$ 4 a house. i am 7 months preg w/ my first. were both stressed out & fighting all the time. abt money bc we dont have any to do anything. he says he feels trapped bc he never gets to see his friends & also abt the way we treat each other. i say he acts like he never wants to be around me & is bored when we talk or interact w/ each other. he says thats bc were always fighting…its a vicious cycle it seems. its gotten so bad that hes talked abt getting a divorce. i really love him & i want our marriage to work out & today we talked abt all this & we agreed to try some diff ways to make each other happy ect. problem is i am so upset abt things that he tells me & i cant seem to get them out of my head. for example how unhappy he is how i upset him how when i tell him somethings bothering me he doesnt want to hear it. i want to know how im supposed to be positive abt us when all i can think abt is everything negative he says abt me
he doesnt see his friends a lot bc we have a diff of opinion abt this issue. he is always wanting to hang out w/ them, but never wants go do anything with me. i take it personal bc i want to spend time w/ him. i dont know whats fair? i also am tired all the time from working full time while being 7 months preg and he acts like i dont do enough. although i do take care of his 8 year old daughter that lives with us. he acts like thats not much. he also acts like all i do is nag when i talk abt my pregnancy, but i just want someone to share things w/. i dont know if its a prob communicating or what. basically weve decided to work things out but i am still very upset bc all i can think about is the mean/negative things he says abt me & our marriage. im afraid if i try to talk to him abt these feelings he will just get mad bc he doesnt want to be more stressed out than he already is. but i dont know how to put these thoughts out of my head & concentrate on fixing our marriage. HELP!
my husband & i have been together for roughly 8 years, married for two. it is very hard for both of us to live w his parents but moreso for me bc i feel like the outsider. it causes a lot of stress having them involved w our finances, & sometimes our marital issues. i know sometimes im selfish in regards to him seeing his friends but i feel like he should want to be w me more. & when i feel taken advantage of for one thing & also sad bc i cant share any of my preg w him…its too much to handle & it seems like im crying all the time. he also says that i complain too much abt feeling sick or being in pain & that it drives him crazy…but i cant help it; im pregnant!! again, he says he wants to work it out but after hearing how unhappy he says he is i cant think of anything else…it makes me so upset to think of him being unhappy & not wanting to be around me. i cant get the idea out of my head that im going through this alone or hes going to leave me bc hes so stressed. idk what to do!
Lee
