Archive for January, 2009

Marital problem, PLEASE HELP?

Saturday, January 24th, 2009
Bruce C asked:


So this is what happened to me, Been married 3 years and two weeks ago I had an affair with our maid, it just happen, please don’t judge me, the problem is that I had also been seeing my wife’s cousin and my maid found out about it cause after we slept together she started listening in on my conversations so now she wants me to divorce myw ife and break it up with her cousin, I also have been on and off seeing a girl at work, but that is nothing serious, the problem is that is my maid (let’s call her Julia) finds out she will ask me to leave her too, plus I like it this way cause I have a nice variety! Oh and if my wife finds out about any of this she willl cut me, really! How can I continue this safely?

Zachary

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Posted in Marriage & Divorce | 15 Comments »

Husband and I having problems over his 18 year old son?

Saturday, January 17th, 2009
Elizabeth E asked:


My husband and I are having marital problems due to his 18 year old son. The kid is 18 and a jr. in high school. Has add and the dad lets him get by with murder because, as he puts it, “he isn’t capable of doing better”. I disagree. I think, even with add, kids (especially grown ones) can be expected to do chores and to obey house rules. Whenever the kid fails to do a chore (taking out the trash, etc.) his dad won’t punish him… he simply says, “oh, well, it’s my fault for forgetting to remind him”. Even though the kid is 18!!!! And has a chore chart on the fridge. Any suggestions? Help! Please! I am thinking of leaving him over this. We have huge fights about his kid at least once a week (we’ve been married 6 months). My hubby’s ex wife kicked the kid out of her house. I don’t want to kick him out but I can’t live like this.
gus, for the record… we NEVER fight in front of the child. NEVER. And I have tried to get him to take the kid to a psychiatrist. I have also suggested we attend parenting classes together. All for naught.

Dennis

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Posted in Marriage & Divorce | 5 Comments »

How can a friend change toward you so drastically?

Tuesday, January 13th, 2009
fireharted asked:


I have a friend who i did something nice to and in return was mean to me because that person perceived that i was ”after” him and i was causing marital problems for which were totally untrue on my part. That person who was so nice before was mean and when i confronted that person and said what they did was brutal, they just gave a snicker…a so what snarl…. but i got the impression it was kind of half hearted and the person was embarresed that i confronted them. That person probably didn’t expect it. We had been on really good terms and totally on a friendship level. That person took a gift(t-shirt and magazine and newspaper articles, postcards, from a trip and a letter explaining what had been happening in my life as i hadn’t seen this person in months) in the totally wrong way and just did a 180… what are your perceptions?

Donald

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Posted in Psychology | 3 Comments »

Who should I talk to about my marital problems?

Monday, January 5th, 2009
marital problems
mcgrawlisa asked:


I am very close with my family and I have few friends. I am having a very difficult time with my husband right now and don’t know who to talk to. I am afraid that if I talk with my family they will get a negative feeling towards him and have a hard time getting rid of that feeling if we do work it out. Does anyone have any suggestions? I am really at a loss. I am in desperate need of advice.

Lee

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Posted in Marriage & Divorce | 18 Comments »

What do orthodox Christian couples do when they face marital problems?

Saturday, January 3rd, 2009
marital problems
Tom asked:


Do they just divorce, or do they take steps to preserve thieir relationship? Are there any biblical quotes regarding preservation of a marriage?

Scott

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Posted in Marriage & Divorce | 5 Comments »

Just found out my friend is having marital problems?

Friday, January 2nd, 2009
marital problems
Harold J asked:


I have been working with a married woman that I get along with very well. She moved here last fall with her husband. We have similar backgrounds, similar interests and similar goals (Military career). We always like to work with each other and when we do we just talk and talk and talk.

She is helping me prepare for the ROTC by helping me achieve the physical requirements by training twice a week as well as quizzing me on the mental. She is making time for me.

Now here’s the problem. I just found out she has been having marital problems since she moved here. Her husband has been emotionally abusive, even though she is meeting ROTC physical requirements her husband says she’s not thin enough ans has threatened divorce because of it*. She was married four months prior to moving here**. So I’ve been having doubts about her motives. All this time I thought she was married and off limits. Now…I’m conflicted. I don’t know what to do, what can I do? I would be interested if she is***.
Didn’t have enough room to add details.

*Among other things including telling him he outright hates her.

** She has been married for about a year.

***I think she is. The way she looks at me just screams of interest.
* Correction, HE outright hates HER.

Edwin

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Posted in Marriage & Divorce | 4 Comments »