Fighting For Your Marriage

Mr Green Eyez asked:


I don’t really like the club scene to much because of drunk disrespectful idiots so I try to stay away from them, every now and then I will go with my wife. Well sometimes over the past 8 years she wants to go with her girls and Im ok with it because I want her to have fun. I usually take that time to play call of duty of watch a horror movie because she hates when I play the games and she has never watched a horror movie. So over the years she’s went out often. Well I never go to many places, all of my friends are married and have their own family so really it’s jsut me and her most of the time…And im completely fine with that. One night I went on a small yacht type company cruise with my boss and a few other fellow employees. After it was over my BOSS still wanted to party. So knowing that the rules were we had to ride share I couldn’t bring my own car because of limited parking spaces. I’m pissed because first off I Do Not! want to party with my boss but what do I tell my wife, cause she was drunk and dead set on staying. We go to a bar and I actually call my wife from outside to let her know what was happening, even asked if she could come and get me! She starts yelling and accusing me of sleeping with her when Im clearly upset. So we get back to my job (where we parked and ride shared) she (my boss) drops me of and not 10 seconds after she pulled off my wife jumps out of her car yelling to the top of her lungs. We go home and a huge fight began. Finally we go to sleep I wake up still pissed at what she did and just runs out for work, no hug,kiss nothing. She then about an hour later calls my job and tells my assistant she will be reporting my boss to my regional manager for keeping her husband out till 2 in the morning. Now my thing is this…I understand her (my wifes) worry..But isn’t there a better way to handle it than possibly making me loose my job. A week 1/2 later im called into the office and fired because of “Marital problems in the workplace” No more Medical,Rent,Car payment money nothing. I eventually had to give back a car I was paying notes on to someone,relocate and swallow my pride stick to my vows and get over it. Since then I haven’t been able to find a job. It’s been 5 months and my wife is telling me mean things like a can’t support a man and I can’t provide for her, just really really pride destroying things. And she tells me whats done is done and I should just man up and get over it when she clearly see’s im trying and getting no luck. She has a in home buisness and so far it’s been helping us get by. But I do all the cooking cleaning taking care of the dog running task and all. I cook breakfast,lunch & dinner she does nothing but sit on the computer all day! and I do the house work. We have no children yet and she tells me she paying all the bills and she feels like she’s the man. And she’s 10x more mean when she says it. My question is I have let her go out with her friends and come in after 2am for years, I do it once and all hell breaks loose. And I even called her to inform her on what was going on. Now if Im wrong im wrong but I just needed to know what others thought about this entire situation. That’s all. Just venting I guess…

Leon