Fighting For Your Marriage

kathy asked:


I spend a lot of time with him because we are both unhappy with our current relationship situation. We talk on the phone every day. My daughter does not live at home and does not know about the time I am spending with her ex-boyfriend going out to dinner or for a couple of drinks. I truly enjoy his company and I don’t feel uncomfortable when I am with him. Is this wrong to continue a friendship with him? My daughter treated him terribly in their relationship and he is still in love with her. I love him like a son but I’m worried he may think otherwise.
I’ll admit that I find him attractive but our age difference is 20 years and I have seen the movie The Graduate. I would never let myself get in a Mrs. Robinson situation and have an affair with my daughter’s ex-boy-friend. It would be wrong on many levels. He is still in love with my daughter and has a very broken heart. I am unhappy in my marriage and we seem to have this bond or empathy for what we are going through. The main point of my question was trying to figure out what this young man might be thinking? I am the type of mother that is friends with many of my daughter’s friends and even previous ex-boyfriends that I see or hang out with from time to time. It’s just that in the case of her ex-boyfriend I find myself spending more and more time with him because we both have empathy for each other and he truly is like a son to me. But I’m worried that maybe that’s not what he’s thinking. Hope that clarifies things. I do not want to have *** with him.

Danielle