Posts Tagged ‘Parents’

help with my marital problem?

Monday, May 4th, 2009
Nazrin B asked:


I’am Nazrin, a muslim girl and I got married recently. my problem is that i don’t like my husband. he is not a bad guy or whatever. it is just that i dont find him attractive. i find him boring. We were engaged for 3 years. During that period itself, i felt he is not my guy and asked my parents to stop the marriage. but they convinced me saying that engagement is like a promise and breaking a promise is sin. and i agreed(was made to agree by sentimental blackmailing) to marry. after marriage i have been living with him for 3 months and still feel no attachment or sense of belonging to him. he is a very simple guy. he doesn;t have any bad habits. he is god-fearing. in all way he is a good person. but i’m not attracted and i dont like having *** with him. i am very confused. am i doing a sin? i dont know what to do. i am a religious person and i am very watchful to stick to islamic rules always. please do advice me to get out of my problem.

Michelle

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Why parents sometimes have problems with kids?

Sunday, November 16th, 2008
marital problems
degreesheet asked:


Do parents who are having fights with their kids just inititate such fights because they are actually having marital problems. i.e. they vent their anger out elsewhere because they are upset about what’s really bothering them?

Thanks

Geraldine

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problems with mother in law?

Monday, March 24th, 2008
marital problems
survivor asked:


my wife and i had a big fight. both of us said some nasty things. she then went and told her mother for support. my mother in law came down for easter and totally ignored me. my wife did nothing. we are suppose to go to the beach this summer and stay in a condo with her parents. I flat out told her no i’m not going because your mom can’t take sides in our marriage. she sounds fine with that. i told her well i see where your loyalties are. she said gez is this a test of my love for you? I just said no i’m just sorry you don’t have a backbone to stick up for me and i know where my place is in this family. she seems fine to go without me. i’m standing my ground. i’m not going. i’m not wasting my vacation cramped with someone who thinks i’m the cause of all their daughter’s marital problems without my wife saying it takes 2. am i being too harsh? i just can’t do it. i want loyalty. How should i act now that my wife seems fine that i’m not going? i’m really not going. i have respect 4 myslf

Tara

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Posted in Marriage & Divorce | 19 Comments »

How would you react if your spouse called your parents to discuss your marital problems behind your back?

Friday, January 11th, 2008
marital problems
bostonsdig asked:


He is somewhat controlling. We have been married for 11 years and are currently going to marriage counseling, I feel like he felt he’s losing control of me, so he moved on to try to manipulate my parents to be on his side. He said he just loves them and wants them to know what is going on. My Mom worries about everything little thing and this kept her up all night. What do you think?
I had already mentioned to my parents that we were having some problems only because he kept threatening to leave. I didn’t go into many details.

The dynamics of our relationship have changed over that last few years. I lost some weight and my professional career has blossomed somewhat. He became very jealous, possessive. I feel that my newly found self-respect is a threat to him.

I do feel like we have grown apart.

Elaine

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Posted in Marriage & Divorce | 21 Comments »

Parents are having marital problems?

Friday, January 11th, 2008
marital problems
Cuddly W asked:


My parents have been married about 15 years and have had troubles in their relationship for about 8. Neither of them brought them up until recently and now they are doing better but my dad says he still believes they only have a 50% chance of working out. He said that he loves her, but isn’t in love with her. He sees her as more of a best friend than a wife/lover. I know I shouldn’t get involved too much, and I’m not planning on it… I just don’t know how to deal with it without crying myself to sleep at night like I have been. I want them to work out and I’m pretty scared and I just don’t know how to handle it…

Lawrence

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Posted in Marriage & Divorce | 7 Comments »