Salvador G asked:
Should I be concerned when my four year old is asking to be left alone? He doesn’t want to speak with me about what’s bugging him –although I think he’s caught on to marital problems.
Should I be concerned when my four year old is asking to be left alone? He doesn’t want to speak with me about what’s bugging him –although I think he’s caught on to marital problems.
Any child psychologist out there who can give me their opinion of the situation?
Joe
Nathan
How about more details of your marital problems?
How do you guys fight? Is he home when you do? How does he behave when you do? Is there any physical fighting involved? (throwing things against the wall, slamming doors… anything like that)…..
Wayne
I am not a child psychologist, but I have a bachelors in psychology. I currently work as a preschool teacher for 4-year-olds. It is very common for four year olds to start to want more independence. It sounds like your child is holding his feelings in though, and this can sometimes be an issue. Does he want to be alone after you and your spouse have an argument? Try and track when he seems to shut down. Maybe he just wants some alone time. Or it could be related to something that is bugging him. Try and see what triggers it. Also reassure him that no matter what, he can always talk to you.
Jessie
four year olds can get their feelings hurt too…sounds like you haven’t taught him how to express himself with words yet…
Milton
You need to talk to him. I know its hard. You could try rolepay for this to find out what the problems are. If its marital problems then you can use puppets for this. Try it, what the harm.